We've been struggling with issues of sibling rivalry between our No.1 and No.2 for quite sometime. Trust me, they can be the best of friends and yet they can also be the worst of enemies, all within the same time. As parents, we are bound to feel the stress when the kids are bickering and squabbling amongst each other. It is driving me bonkers. Somehow, I put in my best effort to be discreet in handling the situation.
I understand as they go through different phases of their lives, their varying needs can lead to disputes and jealously. I love all my 3 kids equally and try hard to be as fair as possible by giving an equal amount of time, affection and attention to each kid, so that they do not feel left out . Seriously, I believe that problems between siblings are likely to arise from unfair treatment from some parents who are taking sides with their brother or sister. Having a favourite child can obviously cause a rift between the siblings.
Although No.1 and No. 2 are four years apart, my fervent hope is they remain close as ever. I encouraged my kids to be supportive of one another in time of need, readily help each other with problems and that they continue to be best of friends! That said, I truly treasure the relationship I have with my siblings and I'm happy for the loving and strong bond that still exist between us.
As far as No.3 goes, my toddler is doing great and such a happy go lucky kid.
As the saying goes, blood is thicker than water. Friends may come and go, but siblings are forever.
Appreciate your thoughts.